We talked to our kids about values

6 thoughts on “We talked to our kids about values”

  1. I acknowledge the need to verbalise the values but also our children need to see consistent adherence.

    The biggest challenge to any child is the hypocrisy of their parents who seek to hide their personal failures. We’re not perfect and when we get things wrong let our children know we have to face the consequences. It isn’t always someone else’s fault. Sometimes we are to blame.

    You want your children to have strong values that offer positive direction then first live by them, show them and then articulate them.

    Enjoyed the post


  2. Since values are pretty much set in children by the age of six, you have obviously given them a great start without even realizing it. It never hurts to have a refresher course. Only those that want to learn and grow will do so but it helps if you instill the desire. The fact that you look at your values, speaks volumes about who you are. And smart enough to recognize that boys, (men) and girls process differently. I enjoyed the hike. Now I need to scratch my ankle. 🙂


  3. Good for you. Parenting is the hardest job. Speaking as a grandmother, mother and newly-retired primary school teacher, I have found that the leading by example/ actions speak louder than words approach is the most effective. But yes, there are times when you have to be more explicit and talk a child through appropriate actions/attitudes – and this often works best when dealt with as they arise.
    More power to you, Andrea. Your children are fortunate to have such a wise mum. 🙂


  4. At the end of the day all we can hope for is that our children know right from wrong and ultimately have the strength of character to stand up for what they believe in, irrespective of popular opinion or peer pressure. They do absorb much more from our everyday behaviours than we might think, and in their early teens can become our greatest critics. The luckiest children are those with parents who are present and available in their lives and neither too authoritarian nor too permissive. Parenting wasn’t meant to be easy and theres no one size fits all solution. Somehow, however, we all muddle along, keep up the good work Andrea.


  5. Andrea,
    You have me laughing out loud! I too value pants, haha!
    A new value for me is commitment. I don’t think I ever really understood the concept, Felt the meaning until reading Lone Survivor, and never truly committed to anyone or thing until I committed myself to Nan.

    Maybe you should tape your Badgley Family Values list somewhere the kids can see it every day; over time they may start to think about the words a little more, consider times they may have applied their personal family’s values to real life situations. Keep a list and a checkmark for anytime one of your values presents itself, the struggle to adhere to it….. might be a great topic for conversation, next time at the campfire.
    Then again, they might just roll their eyes, haha!

    Love to all of you,

    Uncle Syd and Auntie Nan

    PS….Your story about Grandma and her need for a certain amount of milk each day still cracks me up!


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