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I was away from home last week, and my husband and I had our fingers crossed we’d be able to get one more sail in when I returned.
Winds were gusting up to 20 mph today, which would usually keep us home. But the skies were clear and blue, the leaves were bright and orange, and we couldn’t stand to potentially miss our last chance to sail.

November leaves and sky at Claytor Lake, Virginia 
Egretta ready to sail We decided we’d brave the higher winds by attempting a reef in our sail for the first time. Reefing the sail means you lower it a bit, tuck the extra canvas and tie it to the boom, and ultimately reduce the amount of sail available to catch the wind. Reefing the sail makes it safer to sail in high winds and also makes the boat less tippy in gusts since the top of the sail is closer to the boat and there is less fabric to catch the air.

A spot sheltered from the wind where we could raise the mainsail Sailing with the reef gave us confidence for sailing in higher winds. By the time we ended our trip, the gusts were scary. The boat tipped far and it was cold out. I was wearing long underwear and wool socks in addition to multiple layers on the top half of my body (tank top, long sleeved shirt, fleece, windbreaker, gloves, fleece earband, wide-brimmed hat), and I was still chilly. I did not relish the possibility of capsizing.
We had a great sail, though. I brought hot cocoa in thermoses, we did not capsize, and now we’ve sailed with a reef and know we can manage the boat in winds we used to think were too strong for us.
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I carried my digital camera in my suitcase to Boston for our Support Driven Leadership Summit last week, and I left it in my room at the Airbnb the entire time. I didn’t do much better with the camera on my phone, but I did capture a couple of memories. The leaves peaked while we were there over Halloween. Late October was a beautiful time to visit.

Paul Revere’s tomb, from a walk with friends along Boston’s Freedom Trail Best food and drink I consumed in Boston:
- Boston Cream donut from Union Square Donuts
- Manhattan from Florentine Cafe
- Limoncello from Ristorante Limoncello
- Pumpkin Cheesecake and Salted Toffee donuts from Blackbird Doughnuts

A walk along the East Promenade in Portland, Maine After Summit ended, Scott (my colleague) and I had a rental car and wanted to get out of town. We were going to go to Salem, but Scott’s from the other Portland (Oregon), and it was his birthday, and when we realized Portland was only a 2 hour drive, we decided to go for it while we were so close. It was rainy, just like the other Portland.
Best food and drink I consumed in Portland, ME:
- Lobster roll and Maine lobster stew from Eventide Oyster Co.
- Maple donut from The Holy Donut
- Americano from Bard Coffee
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I’m reading Natalie Goldberg again. This time I’m reading her for my Andrea Reads America project. I know she lived and taught in Taos, and I wanted her voice when I read New Mexico.
I’ve been restless lately, needing to create, yet not creating. Knowing writing would make me feel better, yet not writing.
Goldberg’s book I’m reading is the account of her cancer, Let the Whole Thundering World Come Home. In all of her books, she writes about Zen practice, about waking up, about being alive. But it is when she faces death that it becomes real, what it means to be alive.
Zen training harped on death. We won’t last forever. Wake up. Don’t waste your life.
— Natalie Goldberg, Let the Whole Thundering World Come Home
Wake up. Don’t waste your life. I marked that quote today, then kept reading. The more I read, the more restless I became: consuming, not creating; living someone else’s experience, not my own. I felt disquiet rising in me.
The things we avoid have energy.
— Natalie Goldberg, Let the Whole Thundering World Come Home
Goldberg writes of her chemo treatments, the eight hours she’s hooked up to the poisonous drip, and the friends who sit and keep her company. At one treatment, a friend and she are ready to burst from their skins from the drudgery. They get out pens and paper and say, “Ten haiku. Go!”
I had a niggling memory of sitting on a wooden deck in autumn. I was grounded, connected, and alive as I observed leaves and wrote haiku.
I turned another page and continued to avoid writing. I sat at the kitchen table, sipped coffee, and continued to read. I turned a page, sipped coffee, turned a page. And then I came to a line that made me close the book.
I recalled the Buddha’s last words: All things that are born must die. In any case continue with vigor.
— Natalie Goldberg, Let the Whole Thundering World Come Home
I rummaged in my piles of abandoned notebooks until I found the one for free writing, clicked my pen, and became alive as I observed the world, observed my reaction to the world, and processed it through haiku.
To be as content
as a cat
asleep in a sunbeam.A cold wind
lifts hair from my neck.
Grass plumes dance.Live with vigor —
move outside the walls
into the sun.I wrote several haiku, and I feel better; my restlessness is gone for now. I needed that, to create. To wake up to the world.
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As a writer and a power user of WordPress.com, landing a job with Automattic and supporting the WordPress.com blogging software was a dream come true. In addition to helping users learn how to publish their content on their own personal sites, I also got to spend my days writing. At the end of my 3.5-year tenure I had written more than 635,000 words on Automattic’s internal blogs.
As a customer support agent, I wrote internal documents on how to lean into customer frustration, reminded ourselves to under-promise and over-deliver, and recommended we say “Thank You” more than we say “I’m sorry.” As a team lead I wrote about how I approached performance reviews with my team, shared leadback survey methods and results, and wrote about how to advocate for team members through goal setting.
I wrote and wrote and wrote. All of it within our internal, private blogs.
One day, in a conversation about career development, our head of support said something to the effect of, “One of the best things anyone can do for their career is blog about what you do. All this great stuff Happiness Engineers are sharing internally — why not blog those tips publicly?”
Why not indeed.
Shortly after that, I began writing about career topics more openly on my blog, like explorations of What is a Career? and What can I contribute?
It was when I joined the Support Driven community about a year and a half into my time at Automattic where it really hit home how valuable it is to share our inside knowledge outside. As I read through the Support Driven Slack channels, I was dumbfounded: here was whole world of support professionals outside of the company I worked within — support agents, team leads, department directors — who were talking with each other and asking questions about many of the same things we talked about and wondered about within Automattic: how do you schedule weekends? How do you support a teammate who’s interacting with an abusive customer? How do you help team members control time-consuming tangents in live chat?
Here were others who might have answers! And I might have answers for them. We’re in an industry where there aren’t a lot of books about what we do. I could be helpful here.
So I started blogging more about work-related topics. And blogging led to speaking, and to helping out with conferences, and to getting to know others in the industry who have helped me along my path. I even started a spin-off career blog.
I’m not great at the career blogging stuff. I don’t lay posts out like instructional articles with headings and bullet lists like I probably should for them to be most useful. My posts are more a messy “omg here’s this thing I just realized and maybe it will help you, too” format, or they’re rough-cut because I’m limited for time. Imperfect and published is better than perfect and unpublished.
BUT. My blog has been a friend to me throughout my post-40-start-a-brand-new-career life. And here are headings and bullet lists that share why.
Writing is a form of learning
- The best way to learn something is to try to teach it to someone else.
- And what is writing about work but trying to teach a thing you know to someone else?
Maybe I can help
- In an emerging industry, where there are limited how-to or best-practices books and blogs, support professionals are hungry for resources
- I’ve written, spoken, or have the knowledge to write about some of the topics I see support pros asking about in the Support Driven Slack
Blogging expands my scope of influence
- Before Automattic, my scope of influence was limited to my blog followers (and I love you for following, thank you!)
- Within Automattic, blogging internally helped me expand beyond just my role and into parts of the whole organization
- Beyond Automattic, blogging externally helps me expand into the whole industry
This last one, about expanding my scope of influence, makes me feel squirmy because it seems nakedly ambitious. And maybe it is, and maybe I shouldn’t feel bad about that.
When I couple 1) the Automattic head of support’s advice to share our knowledge with people outside the company to help move the whole industry forward with 2) Buffer’s career framework for how individuals at Buffer advance without becoming managers, where influencing the whole industry is the highest level of impact one can attain, it makes sense to want to help and have as broad an impact as possible.
So in answer to the Support Driven Writing Challenge prompt, Do you blog about work or career related topics?, the answer is yes. It’s scary, and every time I publish, I fear ridicule, and that someone knows better, and that I’ve got it all wrong. But writing and sharing help me grow, and they hopefully help others in their terriciting growth as well.
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The garden is is peak bloom right now. Pollinators buzz busily, and the bigger butterflies are starting to find their way to the flowers I planted for them.

Cleome 
Monarch on milkweed 
Bee coming in for the liatris (bottom center — I didn’t realize it was in the photo) 
Cabbage white on purple top verbena 
Mexican sunflower 
Bumblebee on lavender 
Shasta daisy 
Monarch on zinnia 
Echinacea 
Dill 
Cleome and Miss Ruby butterfly bush These are mostly just the close-ups. I published more photos on Andrea’s Gardening Blog if you like photographs of gardens and flowers.